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Dr. Tracy Papa

Holiday Family Gatherings – 3 Ways To Make Them The Best Ever

It’s that time of year. No matter what your faith tradition is, the end of the year tends to gather families together. This close contact creates friction sometimes.

All the annoying habits, past hurts, and uneasy relationships rise to the surface. If you are expecting a baby, you will be the center of attention at these events, whether you want to be or not. You are not only a magnet for everyone’s advice, you may represent their hope of redeeming past mistakes in child-rearing.

As you prepare to become a family, or a bigger family, here are some ideas for creating new memories and healing and deepening your relationships with your extended family (and coping with their often unsolicited advice):

1. Explore your family’s past

Ask your parents, grandparents, aunts, and uncles about their childhoods, their school years, their favorite games, books, and movies. How did they meet their spouses?

What did they do for entertainment before the digital age? How much did things cost? If you have kids already, they should listen in. This stuff is gold. Write it down; believe me, you will treasure this information later on. Every family history is mixed with both happy and painful memories. Look for things to laugh about together. And as your kids become obnoxious teens, be prepared to become the topic of their jokes (Remember when mom tripped on the stairs at Aunt Terri’s wedding?).

Hiiiiilarious.

2. Start a tradition

Ask your mom or grandma or mother-law to share a family recipe.

One of my most precious memories is making Christmas candy with my grandfather. He made divinity by hand and showed me how to check the sugar mixture by dripping a little of it into a cup of water. He let me stir in the pecans till my arms got tired, then he would take over. I have his recipe on a hand-written card.

My mom still makes divinity with my aunt every December, and they laugh together and remember him tenderly. Develop your own holiday rituals. These bind your new family together and draw your extended family closer.

3. Welcome your family’s wisdom

Until now, your mom and dad were simply Mom and Dad. But they were once young parents, too. What did they worry about? What advice did they receive when they had babies and young children? What mistakes did they make? They may be less adamant that you do things their way when they are reminded that they themselves got lots of unsolicited opinions.

There’s nothing like having a baby to make you see your family with new eyes. It’s terrifying to raise kids. Understand that everyone makes mistakes, and everyone just does the best they can. Their best may not resemble your best or someone else’s best. Forgive your parents for old hurts, and while you’re at it, forgive yourself, too.

Accept your family’s input with grace, and remember that they are only trying to help. You don’t always have to do what they suggest, but do listen attentively and humbly. Their annoying advice, comments, and instructions – it feels like criticism until you shift your perspective just a little and think instead: This is what love looks like. This is how they love me.

Let them love you. It’s the best holiday gift you can give and receive.

Papa Roy’s Divinity Recipe

Ingredients:

  • 4 cups of sugar
  • 1 cup of corn syrup
  • 1 cup of water
  • 4 egg whites stiffly beaten

Instructions:

  • Cook sugar, corn syrup, and water to the softball stage.
  • Pour half syrup into egg whites slowly while beating.
  • Cook the remainder of syrup to the hardball stage and add slowly to egg white mixture.
  • Beat until stiff.
  • Nuts or coconut may be added.
  • Pour out onto greased pan or drop by spoonfuls onto wax paper.

Watch this week’s episode and leave me a comment below letting me know what your favorite holiday tradition is!

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  1. Rachel Hyde says

    November 20, 2018 at 11:49 pm

    Love this!!!!! Going to ask my parents these questions with my 3 boys present on thanksgiving day!

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    • Dr. Tracy Papa says

      December 5, 2018 at 9:12 am

      Oh thank you so much for reading and commenting! Glad to know it was helpful. 🙂

      Reply

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